“Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.” -Hebrews 11:1
PSF asked some of our MOPS Moms the following question:
“I already have one child whom I love with all my heart. If I end up having another one, will I be able to love that one just as much or will one be short changed?”
Julie wisely said, “I have 3 kids and am pregnant with my 4th. All my kids are special in different ways. They are like your best friends, you might have 2 or more but each one is better at some things than others. One may have a difference perspective on life than the other but you can always learn from each and every one of them. You would be surprised how much love you are capable of!”
Vee also commented, “I think every mom deals with this no matter if you are going from 1 to 2 or 3 to 4. It’s a perfectly normal feeling. I was very afraid when I went from 1 to 2 children that my son would feel alienated or that the new one wouldn’t be loved as much. It was incredible when my second was born. I never understood how love could “grow”. You will worry about this til that baby comes out but love does, in fact, grow. I love my boys equally but for different reasons because they have different personalities. It’s something that is very hard to explain but once you have the second one you totally get it.
While not still in the “trenches” as these moms are, I do have a great book to recommend for you and your little ones. It’s called, “I Love You The Purplest” by Barbara M. Joosse. It is a precious story on this very subject … how and why we can love all our children the same amount just for different reasons! My children are 27, 26, and 21 and I find myself still telling them that I love them the purplest or the orangest! They never get too old to hear how much and why mom loves them! Enjoy those little ones!
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