Many of you moms may have been listening to your local christian radio station this week. Many of you may have even heard the same discussion about parenting and marriage priorities that I heard. When the discussion first came on air I have to admit my mind was hundreds of miles away with issues of what would be for supper that night and exactly when I was going to find time to do the artwork I needed to be doing. As the questions were posed on the show one grabbed my attention and made me sit up a little straighter thinking that I wished someone had suggested that to me when my children were young. That being said I thought I'd like to share it with you.
The question was, "If you could give one very helpful piece of advice to young couples who are currently raising children what would it be?" The guy being interviewed responded with this idea:
Teach your children that although you and your spouse love each other very much, marriage is not always easy. It has to be worked at every day. At night, it is the child's job to go to bed when bedtime arrives without complaint or stall. The reason that is so important is because that's your time to do the daily work on our marriage. In order to keep your marriage strong you have to talk and cuddle and just be together uninterrupted. If little darlings constantly get out of bed and whine and interrupt you, your work goes undone. You want your family to remain strong and because of that desire there needs to be an understanding. If they interrupt that important time you need for marriage work, they will be held accountable. The amount of time they took from your marriage will be spent with them in their room (or something similar) the following day. I know that sounds harsh but mom and dad's relationship is just that important and we shouldn't allow it to be pushed aside. Tell them that if you can have this time every night (and there will be exceptions of course), you promise they will love the parents that mommy and daddy are even more. You will be more rested, more patient, and more loving to each other... just what a family should be.
These words are paraphrased somewhat as I was actually driving when it came on so I couldn't write verbatim. However, you get the idea. Marriage IS hard. We do need to work on it daily. Our children need to be fully aware of this fact. Of course, when your children are really small they won't be able to grasp the concept but don't underestimate their ability to grasp the concept of cause and effect when they are approaching 2 years of age. They will understand that mom and dad are serious about their "work". They will understand when mom supports dad and dad supports mom in this time being theirs. They will also understand and appreciate it as they see mom and dad smiling at each other, holding hands, and happily walking through life together as a loving couple. A loving couple makes a loving family. I think this suggestion could have made life so much easier and more relaxed when our three were little. As a "empty nester" my advice would be that it is definitely worth a try!
Walking the road with you,
I just read an article for church leaders about the time following Easter. What does the day after Easter look like? Are the leaders comparing numbers with other churches? Are they following through on what happened yesterday? Or are they going back to business as usual? Even though I’m no longer on staff with a church and didn’t have countless numbers of services to attend this past weekend and thousands to serve, this final question bounced around in my heart. Am I rushing off to what’s next or am I allowing myself to sit in awe of what yesterday signified?
Almost 2000 years ago, the God of the universe rose from the dead bringing freedom, everlasting life, and forgiveness of sins to all who believe. How did I get here? How am I so blessed to receive the unbelievable blessings that He brought to His children through His death and resurrection? It started a chain of memories that led me back to the beginning of my relationship with Him. I thought I’d share it with you and I’d love to hear your story as well!
I was blessed to be raised in a household led by parents who loved Jesus…and I don’t mean they checked the box. I mean that I saw them spend time with Him daily. I saw them live out His commands and I saw them live in a community that provided support, accountability, and lived lives apart from the world…yet in it with their love. Now my childhood wasn’t perfect (whose was?), but it was a pretty good start to a life that has had its ups and downs!
I remember sitting at the kitchen table one morning wrapping my Grandpa’s birthday jar of peanuts and asking Mom if I could ask Jesus into my heart. I think I was 6? To me, the decision was already made. It was a given. I knew Jesus because of how my parents, grandparents, and Sunday School teachers interacted with Him and with me. I knew as much about Him as a young child could. And I’ve continued to learn more and more about Him.
He has been faithful to walk through everything with me – from difficult times at home to my first mission trip to working over a decade for the local church. He’s never strayed or proven Himself to be anything but worthy of my worship. Have there been times when I’ve faltered? When I’ve questioned His goodness? When I’ve felt like He walked away? Unfortunately I have felt all of these and more…but looking back, it was always on my side of things. Sometimes, it was simply not understanding what His goodness really means. At times, I gradually drifted and didn’t always realize it until I was farther away than I wanted to ever be from Him. But He is faithful…even when I am not!
That is my attribute to share with others, I think. I believe that our lives are woven by the Lord into a beautiful tapestry. Corrie ten Boom talked about how when we look from our side of the tapestry, it looks messy and there’s no significant pattern, but when God looks at it, He sees a beautiful masterpiece. I think He also weaves Himself throughout our patterns – a golden thread in the midst of our muted colors. This golden thread is a particular attribute of God that He wants to showcase in each of our lives. I believe my golden thread is God’s faithfulness. Over and over in my life, His faithfulness is so evident and shines out from my crazy life. What is your “golden thread”?
So don’t rush off from the incredible freedom, love, forgiveness, and more that is yours in Christ because of Good Friday and Easter. Take time to sit in His presence and thank Him for the fact that you have a story because of His goodness. If you haven’t started your story with Him yet, it’s the perfect time! Then take time to share with someone what God has done in your life. I know I’d love to hear about it!
Thank you, Mel, for sharing with Parking Space Faith. Your commitment is unfailing and your transparency and desire to allow God to lead your life inspires us all. Godspeed on the journey ahead. We will be following as He weaves His golden thread deeper into your tapestry of your life!
So... you are back in a routine after the Christmas sugar high, right? You saw on our last Mom2Mom post that Tot School can be fun and really very simple. We would LOVE for you to send us an update as to how you may have adapted Tot School to your little guy or gal. Readers are eating this stuff up! You can easily do just that under the "comment" section below. Who knows, maybe your household will be featured in week 3. If you include your email we can work on getting pictures of your Tot to post as well! As promised we have a sample of what Allyson and Titus did for week 2.
Here's what they did...
Monday: "B" I wrote the letter "B" on a piece of paper and included different words that started with "B". I had Titus repeat the words after me. We also explored a bucket of objects that started with the letter "B".
Tuesday: "blue" We built a blue Lego tower, made blueberry muffins together, created “blue foam” and searched for blue items inside of it, and read our Little Blue Truck books.
Wednesday: "2"- For the number two, I tried to pair objects that we were already playing with and while continually touching them with our index finger we counted “one, two.”
Thursday: "squares"- We used the same Playdoh from week 1 to create squares. I also drew some squares on paper and held Titus’ hand on the pencil as he tried as well.
God orchestrates everything that happens in our lives to somehow work for our good when we love him and are called for His purposes. His goal? ... to conform us and our children to the image of Christ. (See Romans 8: 28-29) Our job as parents? ... to allow Him to use us in reaching that goal. There's no better legacy that we could leave to our children. Enjoy your day!
I wanted to be that mom who had it all together when my children arrived back in town for the holidays. I wanted to have the house smelling of fresh baked bread and apple cider and I wanted all the gifts bought, wrapped and displayed beautifully under the tree. Can I be honest? Instead of being in the kitchen and in my Domestic Diva apron I was stressed, unorganized and nursing a tension headache. I had such high hopes but life just wouldn't cooperate.
Can I see a show of hands from those of you who felt some of those same things during the high hopes of "maybe this year things will be different" Christmas wish syndrome?
My oldest son picked up on my stresses right away as he drove in from his home in Florida. He's a very intuitive and wise young man and although he doesn't always immediately verbalize what he is observing he almost always reads me and others like a book. In other words, mom can never get away with hiding anything although I had been trying my best.
As we talked one night toward the end of our family time together, when it was just he and I at home, he gave his mom some insight and wisdom. " I know you had some disappointments this holiday season but you are letting those disappointments steal part of your joy from everything that's good. My joy is good, the holidays were great, I love being home, but I can tell your joy is less than it should be because of your disappointments. Some things you just can't change, mom. It's out of your control, but it's okay because we ALL love you."
I had heard these words before but hadn't they been coming out of my own mouth as words of comfort to him or to my other two? Do I need to tell any of you other moms how deeply my child touched my inner being when he held my heart in that moment. He got it. He read me and he understood and gave me strength to move past the disappointments. He showed his mom love when she needed it most during the holidays and that's what family does. I am thankful for the obvious past times when he felt that in reverse from me and had remembered. The skinned knees, the broken hearts, the career setbacks, the deep, deep losses... we made it through... both of us.
Moms, as your children grow it's not a question of IF the deep disappointments will come for them and for you as well, it's a matter of WHEN. It helps tremendously to bring your children up to be able to read your heart and the hearts of others. Teach them to be adept at stepping back and viewing situations from different angles as others may be seeing them. Ask them to remind you of your words in the future when needed. After all, when they come home for Christmas from lives that are far away, they come as grown ups who are doing life their own way. They come as adults who have been raised to apply the wisdom you have taught them. So don't let the disappointments you may experience in 2016 make you miss the pleasures right in front of your nose. If you do, your grown son may just have to have a heart to heart with you as well.
Don't ever let the disappointments of life make you so distracted and inwardly focused that you can't recognize how truly happy and blessed you are. Have a wonderful 2016 and may this year bring you many wonderful and joyous moments that will truly become the great memories of your life. Happy New Year!
Walking the road with you in genuine love,
My friend, Carolyn, has been after me for some time to write some of my thoughts and inspirations down. So here it goes.
In my Christian walk, I often stumble. Ok let me be honest, I fall, scrape my knees and hands, and also bruise my ego and my heart. Sometimes I have to question what I have done to my brain as well!
As a Christian women I often seek God's direction, but as a woman who grew up in the 70's and 80's I often get side tracked to those old sayings "I am woman hear me roar. I can bring home the bacon; I can fry it up in a pan, and make you feel like a man!"
I know you are laughing out loud and I am laughing with you. The truth is I am nothing without the grace and love of our Heavenly Father. When it comes to marriage, I can honestly say the Lord provided a mate that is well suited for me. No, not everything is perfect, but He did bless me with a man who desires to please the Lord and wants to walk in the path of righteousness. It has not always been that my husband led me to church. Sometimes I did the pushing. I am sure you have been there at some point.
I would attend ladies' retreats and come back so pumped that I would be ready to take on the marriage, the children, the house, and the job with a renewed spirit. But you see I often missed the point. Even though I was renewed and charged by GRACE, I would still get some of my directions wrong.
Psalm 46:10 tells us, "BE STILL and know that I am GOD." It took me a while to understand this and, every once in a while, I still have to catch myself and regroup.
Regardless of having these words in my head, I kept having a deep desire to have what the pastor's wife had… a man that was on fire for the Lord, could pray with ease, knew the bible verses by heart, and never ever sinned! Ok, I know you are laughing out loud again, especially if you are a pastor's wife!
A dear friend and pastor, who was often in my home on Sunday nights for potluck suppers, helped me to truly gain an understanding of the gift that God gave me in my husband. For the short time that God sent Pastor John and his wife to us, I saw my husband take great leaps of faith. I saw him develop into a Godly man, the man that had been hiding inside him. I often remind myself that God's timing is perfect. Until this time, although I had seldom thought about it, God had been growing me and causing me to desire my relationship with Him to be much more, too. It was not only about molding my husband but about molding me. He timed my husband's relationship with the Lord to take off and, unknowingly, I would need to run to keep up with him. God knew this and that’s exactly what I did… run! It was so perfect for over 3 years! I was amazed at how much my husband grew in the Lord during that season!
I have to be honest however, after Kim and John left my husband stayed pumped for awhile then I saw him become angry. Not really in a bad way though, so maybe I should rephrase it and say not angry but “upset” over issues at church. I thought, “Ok this is it, maybe that was all I should hope for.” But you see, it wasn't just my husband that changed and taken a step back, it was me as well. We lost our youth pastor and his wife, and a couple of other families that I dearly loved and was close to. I found myself in a depressed state and I was missing the happiness as well as the gratitude.
After some time, God showed me and was clear about what He was trying to teach me. We, as a married couple, needed to seek him together as well as separately. If I let up on praying and searching through God's word then, guess what, so does other members of the family. God showed me a different side of my husband during that struggle.
Our children had gotten older and our middle daughter went away to seminary. She went there with the thought, “I will not fall in love with someone who wants to be a pastor, because I am not pastor’s wife material.” We are still laughing though, because my daughter has now been married for a year and yes our son-in-law is finishing seminary and going to be a pastor!
When the young man asked for our daughter's hand in marriage, I heard my husband on the phone. He talked very gentle, but he said, “I think I know where you stand with the Lord, but how about you tell me.” He made it very clear, our view on marriage is that it is a lifelong commitment, and if he was not ready for that, then his desire was that he not ask her to marry him.
He came into our room after talking with the young man and said, “We need to pray.” He prayed so beautifully while asking God's guidance on this marriage. At that moment I could see my prayers being answered concerning my husband.
It wasn't long after that wedding that my oldest daughter's boyfriend called to ask the same. My husband had a different conversation but, in ways, much like the first. He again asked about the young man's faith. For you see, my husband had a desire for my girls to marry men of faith. So when you least expect it or think that God may not working in your husband, He shows you that He most certainly is!
The best advice I can offer any wife is to remember WHO is in control! Be the best wife you can be, pray and continue YOUR walk with the Lord. He will bless you and your marriage. Remember the words in 1 Peter 4:8, "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of Sins.” We are, after all, all sinners. No one is perfect in marriage. We need to seek God while remembering His teachings on love and marriage are sometimes not exactly the same as the way we view things and they don’t always happen in our time but in HIS.
Thanks so much to our friend, Alice, for being transparent and real with us. She is definitely following her Father’s command to pour what she has learned into the hearts of younger women just starting out. You are a jewel my friend!
Prayer Is More Powerful Than Persuasion:
In life and especially in marriage, conflict is an inescapable reality. I wished I had known earlier in life that talking to God during conflict and emotional upsets was much better than talking to my neighbor or my friend who might fuel my fire.
I used to think that if I persuaded my buddies to see my side that meant I was right and validated me to tell my husband so. What it did was to make him feel devalued in the realization that I had discussed our conflict with others. It especially hurt him when I discussed personal disagreements with my… oh my goodness… my MOM! Even when he and I had gotten past whatever it was, my mom still held onto the thought. Not good.
It took time and learning the hard way before I could piece together the understanding that some of those early marriage conflicts grew into major battles sometimes not because of the issue at hand but because I let others fuel the fire that God could’ve put out during prayer… if I had only gone there with him. Remember the "Stop, Look, and Listen" rule? Let that apply to your marriage as well. STOP before emotionally reacting, LOOK upward for wisdom and direction, and LISTEN to your heavenly father instead of to others in the heat of a disagreement between you and your spouse. Your marriage will remain stronger and your mother will continue to love her son-in-law!
“The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” – James 5:16
Thanks to all of you who allowed us at PSF to share this June bridal series with you. My prayers would be that somewhere through our journey a new bride has benefited from what God has revealed. The first few years can bring such great joy, yet, at the same time, so much disappointment and hurt. The bible commands us to pour what we have learned into young women. I pray this has helped.
Walking the road with you,
Greg and I have been blessed with the most precious little granddaughter. At eleven months, she is the apple of our eye and pure joy in our hearts.
As I was looking after her a few weeks ago, I realized that as cute as she is there’s a strong-willed little person behind that precious face. Changing a diaper through the twists and contortions that a nearly one year old can make is quite a feat. She wanted the toy she saw in the distance, then she wanted the photos that hang on her wall, then she just got exacerbated and wanted me to be finished!
Truth be told, I wanted to be finished too. I don’t like to see her unhappy and she was getting that way fast! If she could have only realized that if she would be still we would be done in a flash. All of this thrashing about was only prolonging the inevitable! We were going to change this stinky diaper one way or another. After all what’s the alternative? Well, she could stay in the mess, get diaper rash, have mom and dad question my adeptness at taking care of their precious baby girl. (Not a chance of letting that happen! I want to continue babysitting!) So with a forearm against her chest, a leg braced against the furniture, and my tongue hanging out we finally closed the last tab on that Pamper. (Well, maybe I exaggerated a little but you get the picture.)
Do you think God ever feels that way about us? Does He ever look down on us from that place of authority and love and say “Girl, what are you doing! You are looking at the short term uncomfortable situation and resisting at every turn. Don’t you realize I know the plan? Don’t you realize if you don’t go through this inconvenient and difficult time now you won’t see the joy I have for you later? Trust me, I know best for you in this moment. I’m only allowing it because I know the end result. I’m allowing it because I love you. Yes, that’s right. The loan falling through for that new car is to teach you contentment doesn’t come through ‘stuff’. Trouble in your marriage is because I want you to pull close to me in your pain. The cancer diagnosis, although I did not bring it to you will teach you compassion and wisdom for others in similar situations as yours. I want you to be able to mentor them from a ‘been there, done that’ perspective. Having a wayward teenager is to show you no matter how perfectly you think YOU parent them, outside forces are still at work in the world. Yet nothing happens without my full knowledge of it. I knew all of this would happen. I even knew you would fight against me as I tried to guide you through it with the best of parental intentions. I knew you wouldn’t understand right away but I took that chance. I took the chance that you might turn away from me. I took the chance you would say you didn’t love me anymore. I took the chance because as much as that would hurt me, seeing you miss out on the molding and pruning and growth would hurt me more. I’ll wait until you stop thrashing. I’ll wait so I can pick up the broken pieces and put you back together stronger in ME than you have ever been. I’ll just wait….”
I hate to admit that frequently when I am in the middle of struggles and hurts, I’m like little Harper just tensing my neck and thrashing about trying to get out of the situation all by myself. I become like a viper ready to attack. That's an ugly picture but it's true. It’s hard to see that through the anger, hurt, and pain that my Father stands close by patiently waiting for me to relax my muscles and give up the fight. But goodness, if I could see that sooner I would sure sail “around” some heartache instead of right through the middle! That’s not what He wants though. He wants growth from us. He wants growth toward trusting a Father who would never let us fall without being there to hold us and guide us when we finally looked up… when we realized the last diaper tab has been fastened and the difficulty was over. He wants us to realize that we have traveled through the hard stuff and am better for having faced it hand-in-hand with our Father.
Traveling the road with you,
"In the journey of parenthood,
you don't have to see the whole staircase...
just the first step."
I saw this statement on the internet and started really thinking about it. I recently have been convicted about how much I needed to do just that ... concentrate only on today's steps.
You see, a year and a half ago our eldest son and daughter-in-love moved to Ft. Lauderdale to pursue what Preston felt God was calling him to do. In May of 2015 my other son, daughter-in-love and only grandchild will be relocating to Castle Rock, Colorado. That's all well and good except WE live in South Carolina!
Don't get me wrong, I am truly excited for all of them. Each truly believes God has called him there and for that I know they will be truly blessed in their obedience. They are stepping out on faith that this is where God wants them.
Would I have preferred God to have consulted me about the location and distance from home? The mom in me says "yes" but then the Christ follower in me has to smile and say that I know that's not how it works. He understands how I feel though and he does not negate the apprehension. He knows a mom's heart and how much every mom loves their child. He knows that of you too.
As moms we have the tendency to want to know what God will be doing today, tomorrow, next month and next decade when it comes to our children. We want to plan, rearrange, avoid, and, yes, even divert God's plans to follow our plans instead of the other way around. Through many seasons of frustration and anxiety as a direct result of my trying to redirect the inevitable, I've gained the realization that God knows best when it comes to those special beings we bring into this world. What I am asking my Father to help me do in this situation is to help me (and them) take one step at a time and to stay focused on trusting him TODAY while reassuring me that he will take care of the rest.
I have no doubt some of you parents are thinking, "Well, if you only knew our situation you couldn't say all of that so confidently". My response would be that I'm not always confident and that's exactly why I so very much need to keep asking and letting him reassure me that he has each situation on his radar.
So in this season of Thanksgiving, I'm finding strength in letting God take the lead. I thank him for each step he takes our family through regardless of the difficulty because I've come to realize we will all grow from the journey. I thank him for past steps but especially for today's steps. Tomorrow I will ask for enough grace and mercy for the steps that come at that point.
Especially in November, thankfulness should be a constant. What needs to be in the forefront for you? In a sentence or two in the comment section below please share what you feel your Father wants you to be thankful for and maybe even what you need reassurance in. Sometimes making a public admission tends to hold us more closely accountable. Parking Space Faith desires for us to be a family that can share our hearts with one another.
Thanks for your willingness to share and hopefully allowing someone else to not feel like they are the only one out there struggling.
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” -John 16:33
"She borrowed something from me. And then she lost it."
"But it was the whole 'It only cost ten bucks-you can get another one' attitude that I couldn’t let happen a moment longer.
So, I gave her a job that required hard work and gave her the $10 she earned and then I made her pay me for what she lost.
Listen, when I realized I was more than half the problem in this whole entitlement parenting challenge, it was a wake up call. Kids naturally want what they haven’t earned, especially if we are handing it out for free.
But what we have is an entire generation of young adults who got everything they ever wanted with little or no work; we have a cultural norm and it’s a problem. Because reality is, life doesn’t give us everything we want. We don’t always get the best jobs or a job at all. We don’t always have someone rescue us when we have a bad day or replace our boss just because we don’t like them. We can’t always have what we want when we want it. We aren’t always rewarded in life."
Here are 9 things we can get rid of to begin eliminating entitlement in our children:
1. Guilt- Often we give into our kid’s requests out of guilt. We need to stop feeling guilty for not giving our kids everything they want. It’s hard to swallow, but we foster the attitude of entitlement in our homes when we are ruled by a guilty conscience. It’s okay to ask kids to be responsible for what they lose and to require consequences for actions.
2. Overspending- I think it’s good for our kids to hear us say, “We can’t afford that” Or “We will have to save for it.” Because that’s real life. We don’t have All The Money to Buy All the Things. I’ve known families before who are working multiple jobs to keep kids in extracurricular activities, when honestly, the kids would probably be happier with more family time.
3. Birthday Party Goody Bag (Mentality)-I’ve been guilty of this like most of us. But, really? We take our kids to parties so they can give a gift, but they take a small one home so they won’t feel bad? It’s not their birthday. This concept of spoiling kids (which usually goes far beyond goody bags) is temporary fun. It’s okay for them not to be the center of attention.
4. Making our day-week-month, our world about our kids-Working in the non-profit world has redirected our extra time. We simply can’t center our lives around our children when we are centering our lives around Christ. Child-centered homes don’t help children in the long-run.
5. The desire to make our children happy (all the time)- If you visited my house, you’d find out pretty quickly that someone’s always unhappy. It’s not our job to keep our kids happy. Don’t carry that impossible burden. Typically when our kids are unhappy, it’s because we are standing our ground. And that makes for much healthier kids in the future.
6. Made Up Awards- You know what I’m talking about. Rewarding everyone who participates in every area only fosters an inflated self esteem. Kids don’t need rewards for every little thing. It’s okay to lose, they learn through failure as much as success.
7. Fixing all their problems- I don’t like to see my kids struggling. There’s a part of every parent that longs to make things right in their child’s world. But it’s not healthy to create a false reality. You won’t always be there to do so and not only that, if you’re doing it all for your child, why would they need to learn to do it themselves? Fixing all their problems is really only creating more challenges in the future.
8. Stuff- We could all probably fill a half dozen trash bags with just stuff. Excess. Try it. Bag it up and get your kids to help you and give it to someone who needs it.
9. Unrealistic Expectations- My girls are always asking for manicures. I didn’t have one until I was married, pregnant and 27 years old. I’m not opposed to the occasional treat, but it’s the attitude of expecting it because you as a parent or others have it. Just because I have an iPhone, doesn’t mean my children will get one. We don’t have to give our kids everything we have. It’s okay to make them wait for things in life.
It’s okay to toss out these things. Go ahead, give it a try.
(These are words borrowed from a site called wearethatfamily.com. I love Kristin’s perspective and down-to-earth way of explaining these ideas so I used it as written in her words. This is great advice Moms! As a mom of three grown children 21years + I can attest to the validity of every one of these. I hate to have to admit that I totally failed on some of these concepts. Some of them I wish God would allow me to have a “redo” but he won’t. It’s done. All I can do is start from where I am (hopefully with grandchildren) and give advice from the school of hard knocks to my children and those who God has placed under my care. Let some of the stress of being supermom go and realize our children do not have to have it all to be happy and well-adjusted. In fact, they will probably be much better adjusted not living with us trying to be supermoms. Another thing... take a break from Pinterest! Time could be better spent rolling in those fall leaves with your little ones than it could feeling guilty about not making the perfect pumpkin shaped snowcone for Johnny's Halloween/Birthday party. Now take a deep cleansing breath and make life a little simpler for yourself.)
On Christmas Eve, 30 years ago, my then future father-in-law put together a beautiful Bentwood rocker. The pieces had been carefully crafted and the parts carefully stored in the package it had been shipped in. The packaging (I would think) would have included the instruction manual. However, like all of us at times, the Kight men didn’t always like to refer to the manual. They liked to “figure it out” on their own.
When the rocker was eventually given to me, I was also handed a bag of washers. It seems they had been overlooked during assembly. It didn’t take many months of rocking our first born son before screws started working their way loose and falling on the floor. As you can imagine, it shortly became wobbly and unsafe to rock in. No matter how much I loved that rocker, it couldn’t be as strong and durable without the washers as it could have been with them. Following the instruction manual would have made the all the difference in longevity for that special old rocker.
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