Gosh, another year has come and gone. I just learned to write 2015 on my checks – just in time to have to start over learning to write 2016. It’s crazy.
The older I get the faster time seems to move. Really, the faster changes come. For example, not too many years ago I was smarter and wiser than my children. Obviously, as time has marched forward, they have become much wiser than me in many things, one being how to properly raise children.
This fact has come to light due to the careless way they perceive that I am rearing their youngest sibling. They recently felt the need to correct my parenting or lack of parenting skills by bringing my woeful parenting ways to my attention. It seems that I am way too lax with the youngest. He is allowed to get away with way more things than they were ever allowed to get away with.
Because I am not one to turn down a good argument, I decided to present them with a brief rebuttal:
1. He has perfected his “badness” by watching and learning from his older siblings.
2. If the older siblings had not been so difficult, I would not be so tired and would be better able to keep up with his antics – which as you will remember he has learned from them.
Interestingly, they were not able to recall many of their own personal antics and felt that I was overreacting.
I recall dragging the bottom of the swamp with a magnet rigged to a piece of PVC pipe trying to find a brand new shotgun that was taken into the swamp without permission by three very cute but disobedient boys in a boat so overloaded that the water threatened to spill over the sides. The gun had to be recovered before dad/husband got home so time was of the essence, and all the while a rather large gator was watching the whole thing unfold which caused one boy to break out into praise and worship songs in an attempt to stir God’s heart into providing a cover of protection.
I ask you, how many mothers would have helped out like that?
Oh, there are plenty more stories like out of control fireworks and fires and kind firemen who cut firebreaks to protect the neighbors. There are stories of out of control golf carts that run over people or flip for no reason what so ever. There are out of control tempers due to older siblings antagonizing younger ones because the older ones know it will make the younger one mad, and yet they do it anyway. Come to think of it, this family just has “out of control” issues. Period.
…but I’m the one overreacting?
I think not.
I actually wouldn’t mind going back and reliving some of those years. Sadly, at the time I was really living them, I didn’t always treasure them like I should have. I didn’t realize how fast time was moving back then; that moments come and go so quickly. I guess I was more worried about how to keep my children alive, not to mention my own survival.
Point is, time passes quickly and when it’s gone, it’s gone. It just can’t be gotten back. It can’t be rewritten. That thought sounds so depressing but it doesn’t have to be. I guess, really, the question is, when we look back over a year that’s gone, do we see it as time lost or do we see it as gain?
What we want to see when we look back are precious memories to treasure for the rest of our years. Maybe there was heartache or pain, but we want to be able to look back and see that in the midst of the hurt, there was a strengthening of our faith, a growth in wisdom, a better understanding of God’s mercy and grace that He so generously pours out into our lives.
But let’s be honest, sometimes when we look back, we have regrets and sadness. Want good news? With God nothing is ever wasted. If we drop it all at His feet, He can take the worst of the worst and use it for our good. He can use our mess ups to grow us and mature us into wiser, stronger women. He prunes us to produce more fruit in our lives and He disciplines us to draw us back to Him. That’s how He parents us.
Just as His mercies are new every morning, so too, are His mercies new every year.
Have a great week and a great 2016!
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