“Let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’ and your ‘no’ be ‘no’. Anything more than this is from the evil one.” Matthew 5:27
It was candy on the candy aisle at the store. She was only 3 years old. There it started…”Mommy, can I have some candy?” I replied, “Not today.” And right there, in the aisle, in front of other shoppers, it began…”Mommy, pleeeeeeeaaassssseeee!” As I looked around, I started feeling the pressure. Just give it to her. It is only candy. Everyone is looking. I guess I need to spare everyone else the drama of the pending “fit pitching”! What am I to do? I already said, “No”. In that moment of pressure…I caved. I did not feel good about it. I just wanted to help everyone in the store feel relief.
On the way home, I prayed. “God, what am I to do? How am I supposed to handle these situations? Have You given me directions on how to respond in moments like this? What does this look like as she gets older?” I was reading my Bible a few days later, and my Father in heaven put the answer right in front of me…
“Let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes' and your ‘no’ be ‘no'. Anything more than this is from the evil one.”
Is it that easy? NO! It is not easy, but it is the answer! It is not popular sometimes, but it is the right thing to do. I have learned how this looks, as she has gotten older. When I say ‘no’, I mean ‘no’ and my children know it. My children have learned that when I say ‘yes’, I mean ‘yes’. “Yes, you can go over to your friend’s house.” “Yes, you can go eat/bowling/baseball game with your friends.” “Yes, you can go to Africa to serve those in need.” “Yes, you can go shopping with your sister.” “No, you cannot go to that party where I do not know the parents.” “No, you can not drive to that location late at night by yourself.” “No, you can not stay out that late with no plans.” “No, you can not go that house with that boy without the presence of parents.” I have learned that when I do not waiver between ‘yes’ and ‘no’, my children don’t question my intentions for them. They no longer beg…they trust. They no longer pout…they respond immediately.
How would I benefit, if every time God told me ‘no’, I responded immediately…as if He has my best interest in mind? What regrets would I not have, if when God told me ‘no’, I simply walked away from what I was asking Him for? What if every time God told me ‘yes’, I praised Him for it? What if I realized that God does not waiver, because He is not evil. Wavering and not trusting comes from “the evil one”. I don’t want anything that “the evil one” has to offer my children and my Father in heaven feels even more passionately about me!
Father, please help me start rejoicing in good that you have for me and trusting You when You tell me “No”. You love me so much more than I can imagine!
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