“Mama, I think I get what it means when people say, ‘You don’t know what you’ve got until its gone.’” Those words were choked out by my youngest son hours after his big brother drove off for his honeymoon.
I had noticed him struggling on and off throughout the days leading up to the wedding. Make no mistake, he loves his new “sister – in –love”; we all do. She has been part of our family for a long time. The marriage only made it official.
The day of the wedding, Sam asked if Drew and Sarah Kathryn would stay in his room when they got home from the honeymoon. “No, they will stay in their house,” I informed him somewhat irritated at the question.
“What about Christmas morning? Will Drew be here Christmas morning?”
Lots of questions, hard questions, and truthfully, I wasn’t really wanting to deal with them myself so I kept brushing them aside totally missing the real struggle going on in my
Before the wedding, as a surprise for Drew and Sarah Kathryn, we located the big red truck that they had dated in, gone to both proms in, and had been such a big part of their lives. The new owner kindly allowed us to borrow it so that they could leave the reception in full-blown redneck style.
After they changed cars, Dalton, Sam, and I picked up the truck. Sam was very quiet, and despite Dalton’s and my best efforts, we could not get him to cheer up. When we got home, Dalton got out and in an attempt to cheer Sam up, I told him to get into the driver’s seat… I will blame my lapse in sound judgment on being tired and somewhat emotional myself.
Anyway, we adjusted the seat and Sam drove the truck down the dirt road. That’s when he opened up and shared what was on his heart. Funny… the effect that a country dirt road and a
big red truck can have on a boy’s heart.
I wonder why we tend to take those we love for granted. We know we love them, we know they are important, but we become so sidetracked with life that we often fail to cherish them as we should. Then when we find ourselves in the place where Sam was finding himself, we wish we had a little more time to really show them how truly precious they are to us. Even though Sam worshipped the ground his big brother walked on, he realized that he had not fully understood how precious Drew was until he was leaving.
We often hear 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 quoted in the marriage ceremony, but does it not really
apply to all relationships?
“Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.”
If we allowed this scripture to be the driving force behind all our relationships, how different
would some of them look? Would it make it easier to say goodbye? Maybe not. But the fact that the relationship was cherished as God intended for it to be would eliminate the regrets that can cause heartache. When the separation comes, the sweet memories will far outweigh the “I wish I had” memories.
Maybe we all should pause and evaluate all our relationships closely and ask God to show us what changes need to be made in order for us to cherish them as He calls us to.
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