Not long after my first son was born, I remember sitting in the nursery rocking him to sleep when out of the blue I realized that one day, I would have to give him away. It felt like I had been stabbed in the heart. I still remember the sadness that fell over me as the reality that one day some “bad girl” would take my boy from me sank in. Seriously, I already didn’t like her and I didn’t even know if she had been born yet. It’s a little embarrassing to admit that.
A little later, I confessed my struggle to a mother whose son had just married. She looked me dead in the eyes and said, “You better start praying about that now, because it will happen.”
She didn’t even crack a smile. I felt like she was chastising me, and her words stung deeply. Truthfully, I didn’t like what she said. But, I knew she was a Godly woman because over the years, though she had no idea, I had been watching her, studying her…learning from her. Though I didn’t like her words, she had earned the right to speak truth into my life, so I took her words to heart.
That night I began praying just as she had instructed me to do. My first prayer started off with a list of qualities I wanted my future daughter in law to possess. God quickly interrupted my list with a reminder that He had created my son and He alone knew what qualities his future wife should possess. From that moment on, I asked for two things. First, that she would love Her God with all her heart, and second, that God would give me the ability to love her with all my heart no matter what.
Many years later, on the night of the rehearsal dinner, I was able to look my precious soon to be official daughter in the eyes and without any reservation affirm my love for her.
I believe with all my heart that the reason things turned out the way they did was because years earlier, a Godly woman cared enough to speak truth into my life, even if it hurt. She was and still is a Titus 2:3-4 woman.
So many times, women shy away from mentoring because they don’t believe that they have anything to offer. Maybe they feel like they can’t mentor because they aren’t teachers. Maybe they feel like they have to have it all together before they can mentor someone else.
None of that is true. According to Titus 2 we are all called to be both a student and a teacher. We should seek out those wiser than us and glean all we can from them. In turn, we should then lovingly share ourselves with those coming behind us.
The woman who was willing to mentor me not only affected my life, but the life of my son and his wife. Her mentoring affected two generations, maybe more because if my new daughter is blessed with a son one day, I will remind her of this story and encourage her to pray for “that bad girl” as she rocks her own precious son to sleep.
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