I shared with all of you about 3 weeks ago that I had decided to quit all my mom duties in an attempt to teach my 14 year old a life lesson, namely, obedience. I was tired of him not placing enough value on obeying me. Too often, his excuse was, “I forgot.”
“I forgot” = disobedience. Period. Plain and simple.
But it goes even beyond that. “I forgot” too often comes when we don’t value and respect the person who has issued the command or request, at least not enough to remember. My child, I determined, did not value me enough as his mother to honor my requests and do what I had instructed him to do. My issue was not that he forgot, it was that he didn’t place enough priority on remembering.
I know my child loves me, but does he love me enough to obey me?
So, with my husband’s blessing, I decided to show him what it would be like if I just stopped doing the things I know I should do. Basically, I just didn’t do the things that I didn’t want to do. I stopped cooking, packing lunch, washing clothes, stocking the pantry.
Over the last few weeks, lots of friends have gotten really interested in the whole “not being a mom anymore” thing. The “Are you still NOT mom?” questions were funny at first, but after a week and a half with no significant signs of a break through, the questions began to feel more like the, “Are you still pregnant?” kind of questions people ask when you look like you are about to explode and are very obviously still pregnant.
“No, I'm still not being mom.”
“No, it's not working.”
“No, I don't want to talk about it.”
I began to fear that my great idea wasn’t working and I would have to admit defeat or starve to death.
It almost killed all of us.
When it all began, we had a several packs of hotdogs in the freezer because I ran across a buy one get one free sale which was really a blessing because that’s all my youngest knows how to cook.
The object of my instruction ate hotdogs for supper every night…for two weeks…until we ran out. Then he ate; well I’m not really sure what he ate. It got so bad that he and one of his buddies caught a bunch of bullfrogs that they were going to skin and eat. I think they got the idea from Duck Dynasty. I informed him that unless he could find Mrs. Kay, there would be no bullfrog-cooking going on in my kitchen. The frogs were set free. It was their lucky night.
After the bullfrog fiasco, he found two hotdogs that had gotten pushed to the back of the refrigerator. He warmed them up in the microwave and sat down to eat when the break through that I had been praying for finally came. “I-can’t-eat-another-hotdog,” he moaned in a dramatic, total despair kind of way.
“Thank you, Jesus,” I quietly prayed.
Finally, light at the end of the tunnel.
He and I began to work through the whole obedience thing and this time, he had an entirely different attitude. I explained that as his mother, my job was to train and guide him and to teach him to walk in reverence and obedience before his God. Obeying and respecting me was part of that training.
According to Jesus, love is proved by obedience. He made His position on obedience clear; “If you love Me, you will obey Me.” John 14
Obedience doesn’t always come naturally or easily. It is a process. Obedience grows out of our love for Jesus and His Word. The more we love Jesus and His Word, the more we want to walk in obedience.
Learning to obey, learning to think beyond ourselves, learning to do things simply because they need to be done, and learning to do all of those things with excellence doesn’t come naturally to our children…or to us. We have to teach them, but in order to teach them well, we have to learn all these things well ourselves. They need to see us walking in obedience, humbly sacrificing our self-centered desires for the good of another, and doing everything we do with excellence and for the glory of God.
My prayer is that he learned this lesson well because if he didn’t, we may have to go retrieve those bullfrogs from the pond!
Have a great week!
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