“All your children shall be taught by the Lord, and great peace shall be the peace of your children”. – Isaiah 54:13
Last Sunday was Father’s Day and as on very rare occasions these days; all of our grown children were home at once! Moms and Dads of married and college aged children, can you FEEL what I mean by that? Contentment, happiness, joy, and even anxiousness to breathe in every word and moment filled our precious time!
One of the things we love to do as a family is to sit under the shade of an old river birch tree planted when they were little and either fish or just talk. We reminisce about fun times jumping off the paddle boat with friends, church parties when everyone ended up wet, and of course, the time when my daughter was very young and went ballistic because her Daddy threw back the fish she wanted to eat! So many fun times on that old pond!
Now the dog and cat bring us our amusement as Greg and I sit under the river birch tree. The deer eating our garden and the state of our lawn health fuel our conversations. At times it seems strange and kinda sad to not have those three Kight goof balls doing unsafe bicycle flips off a homemade ramp into the water or running toward a slippy slide headed down the hill, but at other times it’s ok just to remember…
God gave us children for a reason … to raise and enjoy for a season. Ultimately though they are His. We, as parents, are expected to raise them to be independent and go out into the world as adults who love the Lord and are striving to serve Him above all else. I’m not saying we did a perfect job, we would be the first to admit our shortcomings in the parenting realm, but we did always try to keep our focus on the end result … the place we are right now … the place of letting go and handing them back over to their Heavenly Father.
We will soon be seeing a whole new generation of Kight children as our son and daughter-in-law bring our first grandchild into the world in December (move over grandanimals … sorry). One thing I know for sure, Brendan and Lauren will be fantastic parents … not because of us or Lauren’s parents, but because the Lord has them by the hand. This is our goal, moms and dads, not to make our children the “most popular” in school, not to have them be a star athlete, and not to have them be the valedictorian (although these are all worthy accomplishments) but to have them walking with the Lord as we let go of their hand to place it in hand of God.
I look forward to this grandchild and hopefully many more to come. It’s a new generation and a new God given opportunity to start anew and laugh under the shade of the old river birch tree…
Our web site is all about sharing our journey in Christ; our successes, failures, detours, and our “give God the glory and all of the credit” moments! I would like to share one of these. These are much more fun to share than my failures, which by the way I have a stack of stories waiting to post. But a “give God the glory story” gets moved right up to the front!! So here goes. My husband recently went out of town (very rare for us, he’s a homebody) on a trip to Pittsburg …on a plane (unheard of for us because he’s never flown!) So we had lots of prayers for safety and for excellent piloting skills! The fact that his trip was a little over 24 hours made no difference to us; he was gone for the night.
My daughter then began to make plans for a “girl’s night.” I just kind of smiled and nodded at all of her suggestions- and she had many! She started making plans a couple of days before
my husband left. She is very persistent and relentless at times, which I’m sure will serve her well one day. Right now, it is just annoying; I’ll just be honest.
Our “girl’s night” finally arrived, and please be advised, I had really made no commitment to anything. The big night was on a Wednesday and the Country Music Awards were on at 8:00.
I must mention here I am teaching summer school at Central Carolina and had been at school for about 4 hours and my class wasn’t over till 8:30. It was also a stormy, rainy night. I called when I was on the way home, very tired and ready to put my feet up. My extremely empathetic daughter answered the phone and wanted me to pick up a special pizza box with pizza, breadsticks, and cinnamon sticks at a great price! I politely informed her that I was already late for our show and that would make me even later. She offered to catch me up on everything, no problem. Thinking quickly on my feet, I came back with, “Well you will have to call it in for us,” (this would normally be a deal breaker!) She excitedly agreed, yeah!! (We do not live where pizza can be delivered to our house. so we have offered to meet the pizza driver at a halfway location: but this is apparently frowned upon in the pizza business).I sent up a prayer for patience and strength! I drove to the pizza place and waited on our order. It was very crowded so I waited some more. Finally, I got the incredibly priced pizza box and swam to the car; did I mention it was raining? On the way home, I talked to the Lord again and asked Him to please keep my mouth closed and my attitude grateful.
When I arrived home, luckily the Country Music Awards show was not over and my very appreciative daughter (yeah!) was waiting with plates and drinks ready. I did manage not to grumble and we watched the show and ate our pizza and fixings with great gusto. Somewhere in the middle of our celebration, my daughter said “This is exactly what I’d dreamed of.”
Perfection! This is something as moms of teenagers we don’t hear very often. But, God gets all of the credit. I did remember to talk to Him first and ask for guidance; finally I’m not asking for forgiveness again! Something as simple as girl’s pizza night could have been ruined with my bad attitude and tendency to say “not tonight.” Instead, we enjoyed great food, good music and a priceless memory. We even had leftovers for the next day, turns out it really was a great deal! So enjoy the little moments and any time spent with our children is well worth a trip in the rain! Each day is a gift.
"Every good and perfect gift is from above…” (James 1:17 )
Over the last several months and especially on a day just a few weeks ago, I witnessed firsthand multiple examples of the most precious blessings known to man. No, not a good health report (although my mom did receive one), not appreciation displayed by one of my children (although that did happen too) but the blessing I’m talking about is the love of a genuine friend, or in this case … multiple friends!
On May 4 my son, Preston, married his high school sweetheart after dating her for 8 years. On
Friday of the rehearsal dinner, rain threatened to dampen our “outdoor” celebration. If any of you have been through planning any part of a wedding (from whichever side it may be) you know rain can come in many forms. However, when the rains came in this case, my precious friends went above and beyond. Three had to be loving honest with me and hold me accountable to act and think according to the way Jesus modeled himself through his word. “In the end, people appreciate honest criticism far more than flattery.” Proverbs 28:23 (NLT). They affirmed me, at the same time rebuked, and sharpened me. “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another”. –Proverbs 27:17 (NIV)
Two of my friends offered to run the numerous last day errands I had on my list including getting my elderly parents to and from the rehearsal dinner (which, by the way, was a difficult trek even for the savviest of “GPS”ers. Within this offer, they soon realized just how much I was going to owe them when they made a wrong turn, ended up in a graveyard, couldn’t get the GPS to pick up, and had to listen to my dad embellish upon what he was going to report to me at the end of the adventure. You have to understand, my dad is the king of “making a story better” with a few additions! I actually think that was the highlight of my parents’ weekend! Priceless!
Another friend and her husband grilled their legendary grilled bbq chicken for the 80 people
invited AND helped set up the venue. One precious friend showed up and said “Just tell me what to do”. Don’t you love that kind of friend! One friend not only provided the absolutely beautiful site but stayed there basically from sun up to well after midnight to help another precious friend decorate and move 500lb picnic tables (or at least that’s our story) for plan “C” as rain again threatened our fun for the umpteenth time! But, in the end, plan “C” couldn’t have been more perfect and neither could my friends!
So not only did these friends, and true sisters, encourage me, hold me accountable, and sharpen my faith but they modeled true unconditional friendship by just being there to help. Hur and Aaron did the same for Moses in Exodus 17:11-13, “As long as Moses held up his hands, the Israelites were winning, but whenever he lowered his hands, the Amalekites were winning. When Moses’ hands grew tired, they took a stone and put it under him and he sat on it. Aaron and Hur held his hands up – one on one side and one on the other – so that his hands remained steady til sunset. So Joshua overcame the Amalekite army with the sword.”
They, as well as my “sisters,” showed the marks of TRUE UNCONDITIONAL FRIENDSHIP in Christ. They weren’t my “yes women” they were my “friends” with all that goes along with it.
Sometimes the acts of friendship are small and sometimes they are large as they were with my sweet friends and with Hur and Aaron. I’m forever bonded to these girls and even to their husbands and children who showed up to cook, serve, and park cars! You can bet when their … let’s see … 15 children get married, I will be the first to sign up for duty!
So I guess bottom line, you may have hundreds of Facebook friends and thousands of Twitter followers, but don’t replace face-to-face friendships with profiles and status updates. I say this out of love and because when it comes time for your son’s rehearsal dinner and your emotions are all over the place (which I can PROMISE you will be) you may end up not having friends close enough to take your parents to the graveyard!
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